Fixing – Learn to ask for favor

I don’t know anything about plumbing and electrical work. But I never doubt my first instinct to include it as part of my services. I never expect anyone would seek my help solely for plumbing and electrical work. This is because there’re a lot of professionals available in the market.

My intention is to make sure the seniors live comfortably at home without any household problems.

When I was in university, I was invited to spend a weekend at my friend’s house, not far away from the school. Being poor and alone in a foreign city, the invitation certainly made the joy rushed through me.

We had a big feast cooked by her mum. And I offered myself to do the cleaning and dishwashing. When I had done with the last plate, I thought I spoilt the water tap. The water is still dripping even after I turned it off. I tried to fix it by turning it right and left. Then her mum realized it and said:” That’s alright, it has been like this for years, just place the basin underneath.” I nodded my head and quickly sneaked away.

When I wanted to shower, her mum boiled a pot of hot water for me because the water heater was not functioning. My friend insisted I take my shower before the day went dark because the light in the washroom was flicking. I would shower in the dark by then. Before heading to bed, I wanted to brush my teeth, but I couldn’t loosen the water tap in the washroom. I used the water pipe on the side instead.

I think very long and hard about why don’t her mum pick up the phone and give the plumber or electrician a call?

Is it because making the call is very troublesome?

Or is this her way to remember her deceased husband?

A few years later, I realize that it’s not about fixing, it's the courage to ask for help.

So, I thought instead of waiting for the seniors to have the courage, I would go to them.

I feel deeply that we should learn to ask for help! We were taught to be independent and not trouble someone else without realizing it has negatively impacted our lives.

Asking for a favor builds a sense of trust and intimacy. It creates meaningful opportunities for someone to contribute to your life, and feel fulfilled by it. And one day they’ll feel comfortable seeking your help too!